Male Vs Female - Which Mentor is Best?

Female mentors appear to be better role models, but male mentors may be better at leading the way to the top of the corporate ladder. That's the conclusion of a Pennsylvania State University study that involved 200 "mentees" -- all graduate students, ranging in age from 20 to 57. Specifically, researchers surveyed 115 men and 85 women who rated 139 male and 61 female mentors from many industries on a variety of factors.

In essence, women excel at offering personal support, friendship, acceptance, counseling and role modeling. With women guiding you, it's often more about commitment and chemistry with the emphasis on personal growth and development, rather than about promotions.
By nature, female mentors also tend to be warmer and more approachable, as well as more willing to share pieces of themselves. Naturally, female mentors are better at offering advice on bridging the divide that often exists between men and women in the workplace. After all, they've been in the trenches; they know how to play the game.

With female mentors, there is also no danger of sexual harassment or sexual undercurrents in the relationship. Granted, as Joan Jeruchim and Pat Shapiro, co-authors of Women, Mentors, and Success, note, female mentors often "lack the power to link their protégés to important people or to sponsor them for key committees or projects." Nevertheless, you can generally count on more bonding, nurturing, and confidence-building with a female mentor.
The male advantage? In terms of career development, which involves functions such as sponsorship, protection, providing challenging assignments, exposure, and visibility, both male and female protégés in the Penn State study said they received greater assistance from male mentors. Study authors John S. Sosik, Ph.D., and Veronica M. Godshalk, Ph.D., agree that much of this might be associated with stereotypes of men and women in the corporate world.

"Both men and women perceive men as possessing more and different forms of power than women," Godshalk confirms. "Within traditional male-dominated organizations, both male and female protégés may shy away from female mentors when seeking career development functions leading to promotions."
In fact, in their study, male mentors emerged especially effective at helping female protégés. "Among other things, male mentors can help female protégés overcome discriminating barriers in place at traditional organizations," says Sosik. They may also be better positioned to make critical introductions for you.
In many surveys, however, a mentor's gender is not an issue. More important is that the chemistry works and that you and your mentor work well together toward achieving the same goals.
Reprinted from "What Queen Esther Knew: Business Strategies from a Biblical Sage" by Connie Glaser and Barbara Smalley. Copyright 2003 by Connie Glaser. Permission granted by Rodale Inc., Emmaus, Pa. 18098.

Best selling author Connie Glaser is one of the country's leading experts on gender communication and women's leadership issues. Her recently published book, GenderTalk Works, provides an upbeat guide to bridging the gender gap at work. A popular keynote speaker at corporate events, she can be reached at http://www.connieglaser.com

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Four Steps to Meeting Women at the Gym

The other day I was at the local gym when I caught sight of one of those A+ little cuties that make you forget how much weight you just got done pumping. I reflected on how the gym represents a kind of "so-near-yet-so-far" deal when it comes to meeting women, because while they may be right there prancing around covered in sexy sweat the environment never really seems appropriate for flirting around as it does in a nightclub. People are in a different frame of mind at the gym and often broadcast a variety of non-verbal "stay away" signals that only the boldest dare challenge. So this deal probably requires a more studied and subtle approach to pull off.
However, after a little experimentation and some intense pondering I think I may have identified a few nuggets hiding amidst this apparent wasteland, such as:
1) If they are locked-up in their own little i-pod universe, they are most likely out of reach as far as a DIRECT approach is concerned. I-pods and portable radios are by far the biggest obstacle to socializing in the gym. How do you break through to these chicks who are encapsulated in their own little world of sound and obviously trying to lock the rest of us out? You can try saying something clever to them, and if they see your lips moving will usually tear the headset off and ask "what?", but their annoyance at having to do so is apparent and this immediate negative posture is not easy to overcome.
About the only non-intrusive thing you CAN do is make solid eye contact wherever possible and quickly shoot them a friendly smile, without actually saying anything (since she can't hear anyway). If you get a good return look from her then you may have a play, but I usually store these up and wait to act on a similar positive read next time, not immediately. Again, I think patience is needed here because women seem easily put off by intrusions into their mental workout zone -- so you have to sort of wear these barriers down first in order to set them up for a possible move later on.
If you can pull a favorable eye contact reaction like this on future encounters, then a bit of stop-and-chat might be in order and will certainly seem less offensive since the girl's given you some cause to open a conversation with her. Women know precisely how to use eye contact to either chill-out or lure men towards them, so learn how to follow their signals. While this laid-back sort of "ticking" action might be a little too flim-flam for some of the more impatient among you, if you're looking to protect your ego and operate "without embarrassment" as much as possible then watching for these subtle signals is the best way to improve your chances of not getting blown off in public.
2) Have one loaded in the chamber and ready to go at all times. Your chances with women at the gym will almost always seem to arrive out of the blue... an encounter at the water cooler or maybe while waiting to hop aboard a certain machine you need next in your routine, etc. So if you're serious about doing this stuff then you need to have something along the line of a Custom Compliment all figured out in advance and ready to use as an icebreaker for each and every woman that you might possibly have any interest in. That's right, each one... so keep your radar antenna always out and start paying attention!
For instance, if you observe a chick who warms up with an elaborate floor routine that's focused on her abs, then make note of it. Watch the routine closely and spot something unique like a certain move she does or the extreme number of reps or whatever AND REMEMBER THAT. Link it up with something specific about that girl (give her some private, cutesy name like "ab-work Annie" in your own head) to form a mental association, and then file this scrap of info away into your memory bank. Some of you will be better at this than others, what can I say? Gradually try to do this with every girl that looks worthy of your attention and slowly build up a catalog of astute observations in your mind that go along with each one.
Then... when you finally DO get a chance to trade a few words with one of these cuties, rather than stumble and bumble around trying to say something amazing you'll have something cool and impressive already locked-and-loaded into your skull: "I saw your floor set the other day and I was amazed by your ab routine. You show off the results amazingly well..." you casually flirt with her, "...any chance that you could take me through side-by-side and show me how it's done? I've hit the wall on my old routine, I need a change-up." And so there you've served up a nice little personalized compliment that's relevant to the situation AND to her -- and is immediately working to spark her up with some genuine admiration. Plus, your remark makes sense to her in this particular situation -- it's not just some canned line.
This is how the High Status Male makes his powerful first impression!
Now you've made a friend that you can engage on a first name basis (you remembered to get her name, right?) whenever you see her around the gym in the future. And if the vibes (eye contact, smiles, her laughing at your dumb jokes, etc.) look good, then at some point it's perfectly reasonable to step up and escalate for a get together outside of the gym... right?
This is sensible, appropriate, measured and steadily escalating aggression. Non-aggressive males get nowhere with women. Remember that.
3) Spinning is often the best thing going at the gym because it's the closest thing there is to a nightclub-like environment... the lights are down and the dance music is thumping away. The high-cardio spinning pumps up the same adrenaline and other juicy-juices in the body that dancing does -- and you know how crazy women are when it comes to dancing!
Of course, spinning classes and aerobics present the same type of problems that clubs do in that the noise and "action-distraction" levels make it hard to connect with anyone on anything other than a wholly superficial level. But you may have a chance to talk with her during the warm-ups or cool down after the class ends. Have you got that custom compliment all ready to go?
4) It's going to take repeated tries to break through. Because people are not really in "the mood" in this environment it's tough to create a real buzz on a first meet. It may take a few encounters to get her thinking about you in a romantic sense, if at all -- and so you have to play it cool. Pay her attention when it's appropriate to do so, but never slavishly. Certainly a fine line has to be walked here. Remember that the EYES tell the whole story when it comes to women... when your instincts tell you that you have an interested female nibbling on your line, then that's the time when you must surrender reason to those instincts and take action.
This stuff is not rocket science, it's really all about specific awareness plus some motivation.
Let's face it, gyms will probably never be the ideal environment for meeting women, but these simple ideas may give you a better chance to make a play in a poor situation now and then. The way to view this entire deal is to welcome whatever opportunities you can stir up in the gym as an ADJUNCT to your other social activities -- not as your saving grace or the one place where you're exclusively hanging out to meet women.
Because there are far easier ways and means to get an edge, as we'll discuss in future articles.

By learning how to mimic certain key behaviors that women find attractive in so called "alpha males", Mike Pilinski overcame an incredible case of rejection phobia. His resulting success forms the basis for the methods that he now teaches men. Visit Mike's website at http://www.HighStatusMale.com to see his highly acclaimed e-books "Without Embarrassment" and "She's Yours For The Taking: A Man's Guide to the Seduction and Enchantment of Women".

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Why Do Men Pull Away?

There is one thing about men which confuses women perhaps more than anything else, why do men who are in secure and happy pre-marriage relationships suddenly pull away and become distant? Understandably women find this aspect of men to be unnerving and at times even insulting as it seems to fly in the face of everything they are doing on a daily basis in order to make him happy. The most important thing for women to realise is that pulling away in a relationship is inevitable for men; it is as natural as the sea coming in and out with the tides.
For some reason many need to pull away from time to time in order to feel that they are in love with their partner. By pulling away men are given the opportunity to miss their partner and to feel that they genuinely need them in order to be happy in life. Women who understand this natural process in men will give them the space they need, confident in the fact that when a man has fully extended away from her he will once again find his passion for the relationship and return with an enormous amount of energy to make it work once more. In short, he will have been reminded of his feelings for her.
If a man pulls away from you in the relationship and you chase after him or worse, punish him for doing something which he cannot help, you will only serve to prevent him from rediscovering his feelings of love for you. He will feel controlled and manipulated by you which in turn will prevent him from ever thinking about committing to you in a serious and long term relationship. This is because you will have prevented him from doing something which all men need to do in order to be happy in relationships.

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GREECE HOLIDAYS IN GREECE

Same Sex Relationships

Unfortunately for same sex couples not every vacation destination is as open and accepting as they could be. For this reason many travel agencies have opened with the goal to plan and book trips and vacations for gay couples. Knowing that where you are going is a place where you will be received with open arms is a comfort.

One of the more popular agencies, Out and About, offers vacation packages that include gay or gay friendly hotels, restaurants and local guides. Out and About also offers tour books that are searchable on their web page. These books are broken down between romance, adventure and even places that are open to only women or only men. Special trips to exotic places such as India or Africa are featured.

Another in demand travel agency is called Gay Travel. Also listed on-line, this agency offers gay and lesbian friendly planned trips around the world. They also corner the market on exclusive gay cruises. The site has a searchable database that can help you find gay owned and run businesses such as bed and breakfasts and hotels. Their most popular service is a do it yourself vacation planner. You tell them where, when and how and they will find you a vacation that has been tailor made.

Cruises are another ideal choice for a romantic getaway. Olivia Travel is an agency geared towards lesbians that list many commercial cruises that are gay friendly. The most sought after cruises have celebrity guests and have days ported at Olivia's own private island, Half Moon Cay, in the Caribbean. Children are usually welcomed on Olivia cruises and you will be pleased to discover that nanny services are available when you and your sweetie want to have a night alone.

The fastest growing vacation trend is a trip up north to our neighbors in Canada. Many same sex couples plan their weddings in Canada and the nation has opened its arms to help make their special day truly unique. Deals can be found for you, your mate and your combined families at many hotels in Montreal, Toronto and Halifax. Lush spa packages by gay friendly staff are offered at many resorts.

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Manchester - Gay Capital of The UK

Manchester's Gay Village, which is centred around Canal Street, close to the Chinese centre, has just about recovered from being featured in the popular BBC series 'Queer as Folk' when it became the destination of hen and stag nights, giving it almost a zoo like status. The reason it was chosen as the location, is that it has been around for quite a while and is a the gay party capital of the UK. There are so many clubs and pubs that there is very little room for anything else. If the canal were to freeze over, they would build at least 3 clubs on the ice.

Canal Street was a once prosperous site, situated alongside the Rochdale Canal, but when rail and then road took over as the preferred method of transport, it became a dark and run down area. Given that homosexuality was illegal until the late 60's and then only legal in private if you were over 21 years old, it became a surreptitious area for cruising. Some say that it was first a big lesbian area. The Ogden Arms, then just a pub, was a prime meeting place. Now it is The Rembrandt, has a hotel, and is the favourite haunt of the leather and tattoo guys.

If you want to pay homage to its roots you should visit The Rembrandt, formerly the Ogden Arms, along with Napoleons, New York New York, Cruz 101 and The New Union as they were the beginning of the gay scene, when homophobic police raids were quite common.

Now the police have a more tolerant attitude and Canal Street is booming with pubs, clubs and restaurants, putting it on a par with London and Brighton. In fact some might say when it comes to clubbing, Manchester is the number 1 place to party. Some other bars of note are the Tribecca Bar and Bed, where the downstairs restaurant has full size beds, Cyotes and Vanilla cater to the lesbian crowd, though not exclusively, Spirit, Queer and Taurus are all worthy of a visit.

Manchester's gay credentials are further enhanced by its annual Pride celebration, which is one of the best in Europe and that a survey by Diva magazine found the Manchester Metropolitan University is the most gay friendly university in the UK.

There are numerous gay friendly hotels in the Canal Street district, along with the new apartment hotels, which means that it is easy to visit from out of town, not that you will be doing much sleeping in this vibrant city, but it makes a good site for a holiday.

Manchester has so much to offer with its rich cultural heritage, particularly in music. Despite the Liverpool sound of the Beatles, Manchester had The Hollies, Herman's Hermits and Freddy and the Dreamers who were big on both sides of the Atlantic. In fact the list of bands or musicians who have emanated from Manchester is long and illustrious such as The Smiths, Oasis, Elbow, Stone Roses, Joy Division/New Order, The Verve, Badly Drawn Boy etc., etc..

There is also an annual jazz festival plus the Hallé Orchestra and a thriving Opera scene.

Amongst the many art galleries is The Lowry, an amazing steel and glass building, rising over the old docks area, which displays the work of local hero LS Lowery along with other ventures catering for the visual and performing arts.

The theatre is thriving too, with many theatres showing a wide range of plays from the classics to the avant garde.

Manchester has its own International airport and good road and rail links, so it makes a good base if you want to visit Liverpool, the Lake District or Blackpool, which along with also having some great gay clubs, has a huge beach, the Blackpool Tower and some awesome roller coaster rides.

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